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maci's avatar

Love the article. As a 20 year old girl now, it's nice to hear my own complex feelings and experiences articulated back to me so well when I often fail to find the right words myself.

It reminds me of Jean Baudrillard's "Seduction," especially with "interrogating signs" and "sexy" as something defined by objects vs "sexy" as a vibe.

I love the intimacy and adoration you show your friends. This section:

"I’m probably to blame. I love the word myself, and I use it to mean all kinds of things. This glass of wine is really sexy. This is a sexy salad. What a sexy couch. I find every single one of my dear friends sexy—it’s a prerequisite for our friendship, in fact. If I didn’t find you sexy upon first meeting, I did as I more fully understood and delighted in your personality, your way of being in the world; I find your specificity magnetic because it’s fully itself(....)"

..Very sexy!

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Alexis Madrigal's avatar

Great reflections. Thank you for a better theory of sexiness. (My 8-year-old is currently obsessed with the My Big Fat Greek Wedding trilogy (yeah, who knew)… and I have no idea what to think about it.)

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